I don't find him a..

I know this is very selfish of me but I truly don't find my boyfriend of 4 years attractive. I mean he still looks the same as when I met him maybe even better but I just don't think he's very good looking. When I look at him I always notice his imperfections. (Oily skin, big ears, no neck, too tall 6鈥?)

I know it shouldn't be about looks and that I'm no model but I think this is making me miserable. I'm even embarrassed to introduce him to new friends because I don't think he's very good looking or even has a good personality. (He鈥檚 quiet and not very outgoing) I鈥檝e tried to nicely offer solutions like use proactive or get a facial for his oily skin but its pointless cause he doesn鈥檛 listen or it doesn鈥檛 work.

I know you're wondering why I fell in love with him and I think it was because he always stood by me through thick and thin.

How can I look past this? Or do I need to move on?

Does he still stand by you? Does he still have your back? If so...can you guarantee that you will ever find that again? Say you do find a guy that is better looking...he will have flaws too, furthermore what if you get a better looking guy and he gets into a bad accident that disfigures him...will you feel the same way?

I guess to answer your question I would say in order to look past it, think about all the good times that you have had together. Think about the times he has had your back when no one else did. Will you miss that? Can you ever find that again? After thinking about that if you are still caught up on his looks...I think like you said...it is selfish and you should let him be...I'm sure someone else will appreciate him.